REALITY BITES

Dear Evelyn Lozado-Ochocinco-Johnson,

Fuck you.  

Sincerely,

Monica Wilson

Oh wait, let me back up.

Sorry about the cut to your forehead.  I hope it heals up nicely, but I imagine your plastic surgeon will see to that.  No one deserves to be hit, or kicked, or head butted. 

But do me a favor?  Stop trying to be the face of domestic violence.  The public already has a hard enough time believing survivors stories.  You aren't helping.

I know it's been less than 48 hours since it all happened, and I know how you hate to miss an opportunity to whore it up in the media.  But really, take some time off camera to reflect.  About what? Don't worry, I have some suggestions.

Reflection topic #1: What are you going to do with your life now that you've have ended another relationship with an athlete?  Maybe choose something other than reality television.  It makes you look like a bitch.  Oh wait, that's not the editing.

Reflection topic #2: Get real about who you are.  You are famous for fucking athletes.  You don't bring positivity to the world on any level.  You are catty and mean to people, and violent yourself.  I'd never blame a person who is on the receiving end of intimate partner violence.  Violence just isn't the answer. But when you regularly use violence to prove your point, as you do (throwing bottles and punches when you don't like people or their opinions), you can't expect people to have too much sympathy when the tables turn.  Take inventory of the choices you've made that have led to the situation you are in.  

Reflection topic #3: Instead of playing the victim role, recognize your role as an abuser.  Instead of trying to gather sympathy, determine how you can address the issue of interpersonal violence and then work to end the cycle that you perpetuate when you put hands on your best friend.  

Now it's time to do:

• Treat people how you like to be treated.  Don't like to be hit?  QUIT HITTING OTHER PEOPLE!
• Act like you're family might be embarrassed when they see you wildin' out on TV.  QUIT HITTING OTHER PEOPLE!  And maybe you could stop the screaming, belittling, and throwing of champagne bottles while you're at it.  And don't jump on tables anymore.  
• Behave like you have a teenage daughter who is now starting to date athletes and rappers, like her mama showed her.  Show her the options that are available to her with an education and some self-respect.  Maybe you could QUIT HITTING OTHER PEOPLE?  But maybe also you could find a way to make a living that isn't dependent on whom you are sleeping with.  If for no other reason, your daughter is watching you.  And not just on TV, she can see you in real life too.

But really, until you act right, even a little bit, I'm sticking with fuck you.  If not for me having to be bombarded with your crocodile tears and woe is me disposition over recent events, then for the abusive ways you have treated women you care about.  Violence is violence, don't hurt the people you love.  Or the people you loved at one time.  You might think you are a bad bitch, and that you are about this life.  And if that's still true, after everything you've been through, then seriously: F.....

It's not even worth it.  Just go away already.